You may know by now that I’m all about science and less about romance. Luckily this is a science book. Well, OK, this is actually an “everything you ever learned about your body and sex is bullshit” book. I want to send this book to every person I know with female parts. I want to scream from the rooftops that we’re all normal. Everything is normal: how you feel, how you look, your desire level or lack of. We’re all the same parts organized differently, as Nagoski says. And there’s nothing wrong with you. Or your sex life. But you can tweak things that maybe make you feel off.
Here’s your TMI for the week: I’ve always wanted way more sex than any of my partners. Now I know what impact that might have on others, and how to learn from it instead of worry and feel unfulfilled. Nagoski also got me thinking: what is good sex? One of the worksheets in this book (there aren’t many, though there is a separate workbook) asks you to remember all the details of a time where you had good sex. And wouldn’t you know it, none of them were the one night stands or back seat hookups. They all had to do with connection and being seen.
I shouldn’t be surprised by now, but I was. Again, super desire level had me thinking any sex is good sex. Are we done with TMI? I could go on.
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